paedophilia

 I had this vivid dream of secretly living in a basement under the roof of a paedophile. Did it know of my existence? Probably not.

But its alter egos almost always found reason to lurk under the wooden floorboards above me.
I'm sure of it.

Have you seen their eyes?
Those saucer cup pupils dilated in horror, glazed, transfixed to their owner's unfortunate (or should I say, despicable) condition.

In the minute stops of darkness, stifled in silence, I could hear their hollow breaths so often, you see_____always so softly pulsing_____their muffled breaths hitching to a stop every now and then, in unison with the deadened drop of my heart.

If women's desire results from good sex, then the issue for men is not how to ignite their lust before the fact; it's knowing what kind of sex enables women to warm up sufficiently to experience desire. According to sexologists, the "brand" you should try is sex based on gentle, whole-body massage that eventually includes the genitals but does not fixate on them.

Unfortunately, many men don't appreciate the importance of whole-body lovemaking. "The genitals are important," says New York sex educator Betty Dodson, "but so is every other part of women's bodies. Men who rush into genital sex are clueless about women."

Forget foreplay; embrace 'loveplay'

Which brings us to foreplay, the term for activities that precede what most men consider the main event. Forget foreplay. Instead, focus on "loveplay" — extended, gentle, playful, whole-body caressing.

Loveplay might begin by holding one another, kissing, and mutual touching from scalp to sole. Then you might shower together, dry each other off and share a glass of wine. Next you could light candles, kiss, turn on some music and massage one another's neck, shoulders and back. And then — well, you get the idea.

Convinced that sex equals genital play, some men recoil from "all that touchy-feely stuff." They view women's preference for whole-body sensuality as an annoyance that postpones the hardcore action. However, leisurely, playful, whole-body massage enhances not only women's experience of lovemaking but also men's.

The whole-body sexual style that allows women to experience desire is the same approach that sex therapists recommend for men wishing to raise and maintain erections and enjoy ejaculatory control. In other words, whole-body loveplay is a win-win. It allows women the warm-up time they need to experience desire and become enthusiastic lovers, and it improves men's sexual function, boosting the satisfaction of both parties.

"So here’s my take on this whole absurd affair: Amos Yee, as a teenager, is as normal as they come. They chafe at authority, will always look for wriggle room and bargaining leverage, have a sharp instinct for pointing out adult contradictions and hypocrisies, and speak in a language of ‘but’s’ and ‘why not’s’ that are designed to try your patience. Any attempt to 'discipline' him becomes a contest of wills; you can slap bail conditions on him but if he thinks they are unfairly punitive (even before any conviction) then you can expect brinksmanship and defiance. With teenagers like these, you can try reasoning with them but you must also be prepared to confront the idea that your reason is actually unreasonable. What is abnormal is that because of the charges against him, all this is being played out on a much larger stage. And this I think is the tragedy of the whole thing: when a brat acts up—and of course Amos can be taunting and bratty—the best thing that you can do is to ignore him and let him exhaust himself.

But no, some people decided to get all sanctimonious, and we end up with the sorry spectacle of an adult smacking a child mercilessly in a shopping aisle. We don’t think of the child as being uncontrollable at that moment; no, it is the adult who has lost all self-control. And this is how it looks like to me—the people who filed those police reports, the 8 policemen who arrested Amos at his house, the AGC, the man who smacked Amos outside the State Courts, Bertha Henson, Lionel de Souza, the journalists who keep misreporting the case—all of you look so violent, hysterical, foolish and feeble. In trying to solve a 'problem' like Amos Yee you've only ended up displaying your own problems and neuroses--your pettiness, your cruelty, your beastliness, your insecurity--in all their garish detail.

https://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/singaporescene/comment--a-conversation-with-amos-yee-and-family-090836714.html

https://thehearttruths.com/2015/05/01/my-heart-goes-out-to-amos-yee-my-friend/