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Dare to be lonely

 EVENTUALLY, I HAD TO COME OUT TO MY PARENTS (as gay and not trying to be straight). My father said, this does not make him happy.

Then I said, you know what, I can, of course, continue pretending to be straight, pretend to like a woman, get married to her, but for the rest of my life, I will have to shut up this part of my heart and lock it in chains, and I will not be happy.

I will not be able to truly love her, and she will not be happy because I cannot give her what she wants. If we have children, they will also be unhappy.

HOW MUCH UNHAPPINESS WILL IT TAKE FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY, I asked my father.

My mother said, if you get married and you have children, there will be someone to take care of you and you won't be so lonely.

So I looked at her and said, you're married, you have children. DO YOU DARE TELL ME YOU'RE NOT LONELY?

We're all lonely, but we can still be here for each other. I have learned to be independent and through my independence, I have learned that the best way to deal with my loneliness is to learn to be alone.

Because loneliness is actually not isolation from others, it's isolation from yourself. It's when you're alone and you're confronted with who you truly are, and you hate who you are and you cannot stand yourself, that's when you feel loneliness.


https://www.malaysiakini.com/news/344979

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