Skip to main content

What do children of helicopter parents look like as adults?


In short, they crack-up when their parents die!

My husband has a cousin, who was raised by two helicopter parents. Sad, sad, tale. She was brilliant! They put all their time and attention into their beautiful daughter since the DAY she was born! She could walk early, talk early, & poop in the toilet early.

Straight A student all through school, as a teen was told to ignore boys because they were only after one thing (she complied, as she had since birth). She never had a date and has never been kissed. And, she never had any girl friends or associates.

Went to a great college and got a great education! Did I mention she was brilliant!

She did everything (only) with her parents, lived with her parents, her dad drove her to and from her school and her work, for her entire life. She lived in a bubble of protection created by her parents.

The parents message: achieve in academics, get a good job & succeed; the world is a scary place and we must protect you.

She was a lovely person, who was sweet, kind, soft-spoken and gracious.

She got a job teaching at a well known university, she was so brilliant in MATH she WROTE text books and invented math formulas!

THEN THE CRASH: Mom & Dad got old, they died. Mom first.

She wouldn’t let anything in her room be touched, down to the dirty panties on the floor.

She began sleeping in her mother’s bed.

Soon after, Dad died. Their beautiful home went into complete dis-repair.

She cracked up! She broke ALL the family china out of the china cabinet, and whatever else she could grab that represented her happy past-life.

She started sleeping in the car. She stopped bathing. All she wore was black.

She started begging for money from people outside the local grocery store.

They tried to fire her from her job, because she came to work looking like a smelly bag lady. They could not however, because she had tenure.

It’s been years since her parents died, and she is still “not right.”

If there is a lesson to be learned for parents: DO NOT DO THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN!

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

ABSURDISM, EXISTENTIALISM, FREE WILL, POSTMODERNISM

 After the war, Introduction The first world war threw society into a state of disillusionment, and a fracturing of the staunch belief in morals became prominent, sparking literary advancements that challenged romantic ideals, advocating for a new perception of stability and sensibilities. In the poem Gerontion by T.S. Elliot, the modernist stance of fragmentation and the pursuit of purpose lies in man’s actualization of himself. Meanwhile, Samuel Beckett’s waiting for Godot written in the post-war environment of World War II can be viewed as an attack on modernism, rejecting its ideological claims to legitimise purposeful meaning that interprets the world of Estragon and Vladimir with a Grand Existential Narrative . Nonetheless, both these arguments provide a post-war lens that views life without inherent importance nor singular purpose/essence, resulting in the rise of ‘absurdism’— a search for answers in a world that offers no true answer . In this essay, the aforementioned conc...
Post a Comment
Read more

7 WAYS for achieving your purpose

 CHOOSE YOUR DIRECTION make use of free will.   Jesus and the blind man. Why does Jesus ask him what he wants when it is obvious he want to see? Choose area (learning, marriage, finance, friendships) of importance to you, and make 3-10 goals. What measurable  and compelling goal is possible? Set the goal, and then you have the direction. Reticular activating system: it helps you find whatever you are focusing on.  E.g. Search for blue items. Okay, how many purple items are there? you don't know. Because you only focus on what you look for. Your brain gets excited and get power the moment it knows what direction it is about to take. Decide  your exact deadline when you will achieve it. Also, ascertain what you want to sacrifice . (time/money/patience/difficult situations) The price will be  "Where there is no vision, people perish"-Solomon  CHOOSE YOUR REASONS Do you have insight to yourself? Be a person of deep water, look deeper. Introspect. What...
Post a Comment
Read more

Bredlik

 https://yeahwrite.me/writing-help-bredlik/ Bredlik isn’t as easy as it looks, folks. It’s a very tight form with very tight parameters. Technically bredlik is four lines (two rhyming couplets) in iambic tetrameter, or two stanzas of four lines each in iambic diameter with an ABCB rhyme scheme. The other thing that bredlik has going on is that the original poet took inspiration for the poem not only from the incident but from the fact that it happened in a re-enactor setting. So he used 18th century spellings (or reasonable facsimiles thereof) for some of the words.
Post a Comment
Read more